Are you living as a successful single? Or are you single and hating every minute of it? Do you believe that simply being single makes you a loser, and that having a partner will automatically make your life perfect? While it is true that everyone longs for a loving relationship, there is no reason to live an unfulfilled life while you are single. And it is totally possible to live the life you love even without a partner. I have identified the following seven tips that can transform your life.

1. Adjust your attitude. Attitude is everything. As long as you think that you can t be happy alone, you can

t be. And the good news is that the reverse is also true: if you think you can be happy alone, you can be! This is not to suggest that the blues will never hit, but when they do, you have the choice of how to deal. Okay, if you must, spend a few minutes crying, but then blow your nose and put on some bouncy music and dance! Call a friend and talk only about positive things. Do some unexpected nice thing for another person. See what this will do for your attitude.

2. Be grateful for every good thing in your life. One of the best pieces of advice

I ever heard is to keep a gratitude journal. I was told that a simple listing of five things a day for which I am grateful would change my life; and it did! And here s the great part: it s not necessary to list only big things. Being grateful for the smallest of life s pleasures, such as petting a purring cat, or a sipping cup of hot, fragrant tea, can have such a positive effect on us that we immediately begin to draw more good things to us. It s the gratitude that counts.

3. Vision your ideal life. Find a place where you love to be perhaps in your favorite

outdoor location and sit still for a few minutes, just taking in your surroundings. Then close your eyes and take a few deep breaths. When you are in a relaxed, receptive state, begin to dream about what you want your life to look like in twenty years. Where do you want to be living? What kind of house do you want to be living in? What work do you want to be doing? What kind of activities do you want to be doing when you re not working? Is travel part of your vision? If so, where? White, sandy beaches on the Mediterranean? Safaris in Africa? Dream really big; know that you deserve only the best and dream it. Write this all down.

4. Fill your calendar with meaningful activities. Now that you have envisioned your ideal life, start to implement it immediately. Join an activist group; help bring about reversal of global warming. Become politically active; volunteer to get out the vote. Travel to Spain. Get tickets for the theatre or better yet, take an acting class and get involved in community theatre. Volunteer for Meals on Wheels; volunteer to read to children in the library. You get the picture. Focus on your passion and find a way to become involved in that.

5. Begin

an activity that includes being physically active. What have you always wanted to do? Dance? Swim? Bike? Bowl? No matter; just choose one. There are many benefits to being physically active, the most obvious one that physical fitness looks good! And it feels good; just getting out of the house on a regular basis changes your view of the world; moving produces wonderful endorphins that have such a positive effect on your entire outlook. And you never know who you might meet at the Sierra Club hike!

6. Deal with your emotional hangovers. If you are still holding anger from previous relationships, now is the time to let

that anger go. Holding on to anger only serves to poison your life, making you unpleasant to be around. If you are still angry at your former spouse, frequently snarling, My ex! you are still locked in a relationship with that person whether you see him or her or not, and you are not free to pursue a relationship with another person.

7. Throw a party. Celebrate your life and who you are by inviting friends to party with you with the admission price of bringing at least one other person with them. Keep the party simple: have some upbeat music and lots of simple, inexpensive food. Not only will you

have fun planning the party, you will have fun at the party, and you will enlarge your circle of friends and no one ever had too many friends!

The best part of all this is that not only will you immediately become a successful single, but with the change you will experience, you are also far more likely to attract into your life that partner you seek as a single.

And when you’re ready to attract the love of your life into your life, you’re invited to visit http://YourPersonalLoveCoach.com - from singles and relationship coach Sandra Rohr. You can also sign up for my free 5-day e-course, Posting a Winning Profile to the Internet.